Welcome to the New Year!
Hopefully you have had a few moments to relax… and to reflect! It is my very strong belief that no matter what has happened in the past – each new year – new day – we have the opportunity to either continue in that direction or, if we don’t like what is happening to us – change the direction!
New Year’s resolutions give us an opportunity to “resolve” and make “new.” Here were some resolutions that I discovered as I reviewed the book, “The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose” that I’d like to share with you!
If one of these resolutions speaks to your heart, feel free to take it and use it for the New Year!
- I resolve to help my children appreciate that there is no such thing as failure, only temporary results that they can use as feedback to determine their next step.
- I resolve to allow my responses to my children to reflect a knowing that some lapses in self-control are developmentally appropriate. I remember they do certain behaviors because they are 5 or 8 or 14 or 18 year olds.
- I resolve to remember that experience can be messy. I will allow my children to learn from the messes they make and the cleanup that follows.
- I resolve to fix problems rather than fix blame by maintaining a solution-seeking mindset and teaching my children a problem solving process.
- I resolve to make my approach to parenting reflect the notion that raising a child is more about drawing out what already exists in my child rather than about putting in to fill perceived deficiencies.
- I resolve to make myself dispensable and assist my children in becoming increasingly in charge of themselves and their own lives.
- I resolve not to teach my children to have a happy, productive life, but rather to help them choose a happy, productive day.
- I resolve to talk less and listen more.
- I resolve to relax, remembering that relaxing does not mean resigning.
- I resolve to recognize that my children are in my life as much so I can learn from them as they are so they can learn from me. I will be open to the lessons my children offer me and honor them for helping me learn and grow.
Once again, Happy New Year! Looking forward to a FANTASTIC 2013!
Christine M. Armbrust